rabbi waiting until marriage sexual liberator captor

So remember when I was in yeshiva — a Rabbi told me an argument in favor of waiting until marriage: if you sleep around before marriage, then you get married, your wife becomes your sexual captor.

Looking back that's kind of hot. It's pretty sexy — tie me up.

But if your wife is the only person you've ever had sex with, she's the first person you ever have sex with, and she becomes your sexual liberator

She becomes the person to let you explore all the wonderful things about sex